A soft but strong reminder: the biggest change often starts with the smallest decision.
You know that rush of motivation - when you decide, once and for all, that your life needs to change?
You set bold goals. You commit. You tell yourself, “This is it. I’m done with the old version of me.”
You start strong - maybe even too strong - and by day three, you’re exhausted. Unmotivated. Questioning everything.
Most people think the problem is discipline. That they’re weak. Lazy. Not built for change.
But here’s what everyone misses…
The real reason we stall isn’t lack of effort - it’s fear of what we might lose if it actually works.
Let me explain.
What We Don’t Admit (But Always Feel)
We want transformation - but not the discomfort that comes with it.
We crave clarity - but resist letting go of the familiar.
We dream of more - but secretly believe we might mess it all up.
I’ve felt it too.
Every time I tried to start over - big, loud, dramatic - a quiet part of me would panic:
“What if I fail and burn all bridges?”
“What if it’s not the right thing and I waste time?”
“What if I can’t go back to what I had before?”
And so, we cling to the life we claim to want to escape.
We tell ourselves cigarettes help us think.
That a glass of wine is a harmless ritual.
That our job isn’t that bad - at least it’s stable.
That a flat relationship is safer than loneliness.
But that safety? It’s a slow erosion of joy.
Small Shifts That Change Everything
Here’s the twist no one talks about:
The moment that changes your life doesn’t feel life-changing.
It feels gentle.
Almost boring.
A quiet walk instead of a scroll.
A notebook and a question.
A pause - before the spiral.
That’s the real beginning. Not the perfect plan. Not the heroic leap.
But the moment you say: “I want something better - and I’m willing to start small.”
That’s where it turns.
You’re Not Just Stuck. You’re at the Threshold.
You’re not behind. You’re not broken.
You’re at the place where your past and future meet - and you get to decide what stays.
That’s not weakness. That’s power.
Because real power is knowing your limits - and still choosing to move.
You don’t need to earn your worth by burning out.
You don’t need to prove yourself by doing everything at once.
You just need to show up for the version of you who still believes in something more.
And if you’ve been ignoring that voice - maybe this is your moment to listen.
P.S.
If this resonates, I’ve created something to help:
A 4-week soft start - designed for people who are ready to move forward without rushing, proving, or pushing too hard.
It’s not about becoming someone else.
It’s about becoming more of who you already are - with structure, reflection, and small steps that last.
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One step can lead to a thousand.
But no step always leads to none.
Yes - looking back to my journey, it's those small moments that lead me to who I am today:
casual catchup with an ex-colleague > connected with a coach > introduced to the pathless path > connected with others on the journey > decided to quit my decade of fancy career in tech and go onto the unknown